This was the subject of one of the Watchtower study articles that I analyzed when I realized that the JW Organization was a coercive cult. I still didn’t quite understand how to “read between the lines” the mental manipulation I was being subjected to when I attended the Meetings, but the passive-aggressive discourse that the Organization delivered with total impudence really shocked me and I didn’t believe what my mind absorbed.
Love is a recurring topic at all times so that Jehovah’s Witnesses feel identified with the information and can blame themselves, since obviously the metrics of the sect are always infinitely high and impossible to achieve.
An example of this is that it is seen as a token of love to inform the elderly about our private life so that they can give us advice that affects it, so the cult can use any speech they want and give it that bias of the love for the adept to think that the organization’s point of view is correct. Unfortunately, the foot witness sees the information as “true” and does not dare to question what is said to him (which many times has no biblical support), so he acts based on said “advice” that he was given and does not he does on his own, taking responsibility for his actions as any emotionally mature person would.
So once I have explained the above, I will enter the matter.
The article in question is that of the October 2017 Watchtower, I was particularly struck by paragraphs 6 to 9 that I transcribe below:
w17 October Pages 7 to 11 “Love … in Deed and Truth”
6, 7. (a) What is “love free from hypocrisy”? (b) What are some examples of counterfeit love?
6 The apostle John wrote that we must love “in deed and truth.” Thus, our love must be “without hypocrisy,” or “free from hypocrisy.” (Rom. 12:9; 2 Cor. 6:6) This means that we cannot show genuine love while pretending to be something that we are not, as if we were wearing a mask. We might wonder, ‘Is there such a thing as love with hypocrisy?’ Not really. This would not be love at all but a worthless imitation.
7 Consider some examples of counterfeit love. In the garden of Eden, Satan pretended to be looking out for Eve’s best interests, but his actions were actually selfish and hypocritical. (Gen. 3:4, 5) In David’s day, Ahithophel proved that his friendship with the king was a fraud. Ahithophel turned traitor when he felt that he would gain an advantage. (2 Sam. 15:31) Likewise today, apostates and others who create divisions in the congregation use “smooth talk and flattering speech” to make themselves appear to be loving, but their true motive is selfish.—Rom. 16:17, 18.
8. What question should we ask ourselves?
8 Hypocritical love is especially shameful because it is a counterfeit of the godly quality of self-sacrificing love. Such hypocrisy might fool men, but not Jehovah. In fact, Jesus said that those who are like hypocrites would be punished “with the greatest severity.” (Matt. 24:51) Of course, Jehovah’s servants would never want to display hypocritical love. However, we do well to ask ourselves, ‘Is my love always genuine, not tainted by selfishness or deception?’ Let us consider nine ways we can strive to show love that is “free from hypocrisy.”
HOW TO SHOW “LOVE . . . IN DEED AND TRUTH”
9. What will genuine love move us to do?
9 Be happy to serve in the background. We should be willing to perform acts of love for our brothers “in secret,” or out of the limelight, when this is possible. (Read Matthew 6:1-4.) Ananias and Sapphira failed to do that. Not content to donate anonymously, they blatantly exaggerated their offering and suffered disaster for their hypocrisy. (Acts 5:1-10) In contrast, genuine love moves us to find joy in serving our brothers without fanfare or recognition. For instance, the brothers who support the Governing Body in helping to prepare spiritual food do so anonymously, not drawing attention to themselves or revealing the material they have worked on.
Here the cult dares to tell us what is true love and what is false or hypocritical love and draws attention to the fact that apostates use sweet words because their true intention is to deceive their brothers and that those who act like this will be punished more severely. Is that really so?
When I began to doubt the doctrines of the JW, I was secretly reading sites of the so-called “apostates.”
Those who have gone through the same experience as me will not let me lie. We were afraid since they told us that the apostates were wolves who were going to mislead us, but our need to know the truth was so great that we decided to continue investigating to be able to satisfy that pressing desire for answers to our constant questions regarding the veracity of the information that the Organization gave us.
I do not regret having been given the opportunity to investigate beyond the JW publications, because now I am an activist and many of those who helped me wake up are my friends and I can attest that the paragraphs transcribed lines above are very Tendentious, since we ex-witnesses all we want is for Jehovah’s Witnesses to realize that they are involved in an Organization run by men and not by God. They accuse us of wanting to deceive the brothers to mislead them (synonymous with removing them from the sect) and for which we will be “punished ‘with the greatest severity’” But now that I am free to question the Organization, I understand that who is not being sincere is she.
Its leaders speak of love but show opacity in matters as serious as their finances, which are sustained by “voluntary donations.”
His sense of urgency is ambivalent, because on the one hand “the end is around the corner” and on the other hand we see the construction of luxurious buildings such as the mega-complex film studio in Ramapo NY; However, the witness will justify the irrational actions of the sect, hiding in the fact that Jehovah is the one who moves the affairs (although the reason for them is not well understood) and those buildings will be of vital importance during the Great Tribulation. Here is the danger of this sect as its members give hands full without being able to react and realize the deception.
At the local level we can bear witness to how the Kingdom Halls were practically snatched from the hands of their true owners, that is: the brothers who cooperated with much sacrifice to buy a place to meet with dignity.
I remember that when the Kingdom Hall which I attended was bought, many activities were carried out to raise funds since we did not have enough money to buy the land, in the end the Branch of Mexico saw them with bad eyes, since the work is sustained for voluntary donations and we should not have had garage sales. However when the Hall was completed, it was deeded to the Watchtower. Who used sweet words and acted deceptively to appropriate the goods of the faithful? Who should be severely reprimanded?
Returning to the publication in question, he mentions in paragraph 9 that we must serve willingly even if others do not see what we do, and they give an example to the brothers who help the Governing Body to prepare spiritual food.
But what about the members of the Governing Body? Do we not see them wearing rolex or expensive suits thus drawing attention to their person? Someone may say: Oh! It is that brothers with good economic solvency have given them these gifts. This being the case, are they imitating the humility of Christ who had nowhere to lay his head?
Why can’t Jehovah’s Witnesses use their money for charitable causes that suit their way of thinking? Why can’t you just give love without expecting your counterpart to be a Jehovah’s Witness? Why does “the suggestion” have to come out in a Watchtower study for older adults or other sick siblings to be visited and acted upon?
Why can’t Jehovah’s Witnesses show their love with deeds just for the fun of it? Why do you have to put a series of guidelines to show that your love is authentic and without hypocrisy?
From my point of view Love … in Deed and Truth is being true to ourselves and finding our own truth. It is a personal search that you will have to live and experience yourself; no one can walk that road for us. Once we understand that, we can help others on the basis of respect. And that is precisely the cornerstone of healthy and happy families that is the goal of every human being.
Loving others is giving of our time and resources without expecting anything in return, other than the satisfaction of knowing that our words touched the heart of another person; just as someone once unselfishly helped us.
Many times we did not see the magnitude of the help that they were giving us, only now looking at the distance is that we can say: Thank you because with your words you showed me that you really loved me … thank you wherever you are, because now I am free.